Our culture grows more and more with disposable lives each day.
Sometimes it seems as if people have actually live disposable, as well.
But what do disposable lives really imply?
Disposable, according to the dictionary, means “throwaway,” or something designed to be discarded after only a short use.
It makes me so sad to think of my life and the lives of my children as disposable lives.
It implies that life has no value and that we can disrespect it whenever we feel like it.
Come to think of it, does this mean that we dispose of values and family and friends? And if these values disappear, what kind of a society will we be left with?
Parents are busy working very hard to provide for their children, and in their struggle to accomplish everything, they fail to realize what the powerful commercial establishment is pushing their way: more material things, objects we don’t even know we need.
We have to watch TV or go to the mall to discover our needs. Of course, we buy the latest gadgets they have to offer, but do you think they will let us be happy and enjoy our new purchases?
Well, don’t be so sure—they are using the most gifted people on the planet to come out with new, more improved products, thereby adding more disposable goods.
This is the “new normal”—items are disposed of a few months down the line, only to be replaced with new things.
We have substituted meaningful time spent with our children with electronic, high-tech babysitters.
In essence, these gadgets take over not only their lives but their thinking, their reasoning, their ability to make friends and even to enjoy nature! Even more reasons to live disposable lives.
Addiction to electronic games is a serious problem, one that has to be dealt with if we want our children to be happy and to enjoy normal relationships with their peers.
By being absorbed in their electronic world, they become experts in that area, but in order to be happy, we have to instill real values in their perfect little hearts, such as gratitude, appreciation, empathy, sharing, respect, and so many other wonderful qualities.
All these good qualities need interaction and they do not lead to disposable lives—they are here to stay….
We can’t change the way the world is going, and there is good in progress, as long as there is balance.
Parents have to be strong and set boundaries if there is to be a chance to succeed against this disposable spirit and disposable lives.
Of course, it is hard, no doubt about that—but it’s doable. “Little by little we can eat a cow” is an old expression that means making small but consistent changes can lead to greater things. Our emphasis should be on the value of consistency.
Teaching our children to share can be rewarding, especially because we live in a “me first,” disposable lives kind of society.
We all have older people in our families who are lonely.
They would be very appreciative if we paid them a visit. How about if, after baking our favorite cookies, we visit them on a regular basis?
This way we accomplish two things: making our loved ones happy and teaching our children all the good qualities they need as opposed to teaching them how to lead disposable lives.
Turn everything off during designated periods and try activities children love to do, like singing, dancing, cooking, and baking.
Those are not disposable lives – they represent high quality things. Working together with our children gives us a great opportunity to get to know them and enjoy them.
We think we have all the time in the world to teach them, but before you know it, they will be teenagers and well on their way.
Disposable lives? Not for our children!!!
Children’s book and cookbook author Litsa Bolontzakis is an expert on Greek cooking and that culture’s easy, simple way of life.
Her desire is to help other families learn from her culture how to appreciate the simple things in life and grow to enjoy the seasons and the gifts they bring. Her most recent books (Summer: The Magic Blanket, Winter: A Season for Chestnuts, Spring: Trees in Bloom, Autumn: The In Between Season) are available at www.hummingbirdpublications.com.
Litsa’s strives to help children lead quality lives and rails against disposable lives.