As the old year approaches its end, most of us set goals for the New Year, which we are adamant we are going to keep. More often than not, we are determined to lose weight, and to improve our careers or the professional skills we have acquired thus far.
Some people set out to change their personal lives for the better by becoming more sociable, meeting more people who share their interests or simply living a ‘greener’ or a healthier lifestyle.
Unfortunately, yet again more often than not, not too far into the New Year, we find these noble goals slipping away from plain view and out of reach. We’re not all too sure how it happens, but life gets the best of us, we get sidetracked and slowly (but surely) forget all about our good intentions and ambitious resolutions.
What’s the solution to this life coaching conundrum?
What can we do to avoid foregoing our goals, the ones we set for ourselves, after all?
Luckily, there are several simple, yet highly efficient strategies which anyone can implement, irrespective of background or previous life experience.
It certainly sounds commonsensical enough, doesn’t it? Why set goals you know you will ultimately fail at? This question is not at all as pointless as it may sound.
Out of ambition, personal pride or too competitive a nature, many of us sometimes set out with goals we know are somewhat too large to handle or too big to see through. Why?
Simply because we want to get things done better, faster, with more tangible results. Unfortunately, as any life coach will tell you, the key to success, when attempting a life change (no matter how minor it may seem at first) is to subdivide it into achievable goals. To put it in simpler terms, don’t expect to lose 80 pounds in two months.
You might even be able to pull it off, but you will exert yourself and strain your body beyond its means. What is more, the odds of you putting back that weight much quicker than you dropped it are very high. As such, the best way to achieve such a goal is to segment it. Set out to lose a fraction of that weight in two weeks’ time. Then, once that milestone is cleared, set another one, then another one, and so on.
Baby-steps, as this strategy is also otherwise known, are the best way to keep your goals and your promises to yourself.
Don’t Get Discouraged by the First Setback
When you want to achieve something, as you might already know, there will always be setbacks and opposing forces. The key to overcoming them, as any life coaching tutor & teacher home lessons articles and blog posts will tell you, is a force you bear within yourself, as do we all.
That force is called motivation, and it is something you need to work on yourself. No one can get motivated in your place. You can, however, co-opt a friend with a similar resolution and use them for moral and emotional support, as well as for accountability. However, the force is solely within you.
You know what motivates you best: it may be external rewards, it might be your favorite dress, which you no longer fit it (but that you can use as ‘thinspiration’, it might be the appreciation of those you love and admire. You need to look within yourself and seek out that force, its root and its source, and then channel it in your favor.
Be the Best Person You Can Become
The best way to keep your resolutions is to realize that there are aspects of your life you want to change, then act on it, instead of simply thinking about it. There will be countless times when you yourself or those around you, as well as chance occurrences, will try to sway you out of your resolve.
However, if you know that you can change and are determined to see that change through, then there is no stopping you. As Mahatma Ghandi put it, “be the change you want to see in the world”. There are lots of options for you to choose from, in order to implement change.
You can take up mentoring, life coaching, courses, both online and offline. You can join twelve or eight step programs – in essence, the world is your oyster. Once you know who you want to become, there is no stopping you.
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