Raising a teenager can be a difficult and challenging process. Teenagers can be rebellious, they can act irrational at times, and they tend to act before thinking.
Some teenagers lose focus when it comes to school and their grades begin to slip. At times, it can seem like explaining the benefits to doing well in school just doesn’t account for much in the mind of a teenager.
Developing teens actually don’t have a fully developed brain, so they don’t rationalize the way that an adult would. Below, you will find some things that you can do to encourage your teenager to do well in school and start caring about their future.
A parent that’s involved with the lives of their children is a parent that is easy to talk to. It’s important that you talk to your children about school and keep up to date with what’s going on in their lives. Some important topics to note for discussion are what classes they are taking, how they like their teachers and their overall outlook on their classes. Try to stay positive and if your child has only negative feedback, dig deeper and try to find the root problem.
Ask vs Demands
Always remember that you’re the parent in the family and it’s your responsibility to set expectations and ensure that your children live up to them. If your child isn’t doing well in school, it’s time to take control. Send a clear message and make it known that you expect good grades. Now is not the time to show empathy for their lack of effort. There are lots of ways to make your demands heard and respected.
Create Time for Homework
If your teenager is not getting good grades in school, they are very likely neglecting their homework. It’s important that you create a time for them to do their homework. Set expectations that daily homework assignments be completely before other activities are done. Teenagers usually want to spend time with their friends or relax before they do their work, but that’s the kind of behavior that has got them into this position. Studies show that the best time for homework is immediately after arriving home from school.
Be Prepared To Discipline
Teenagers are approaching adulthood but that doesn’t mean you can’t discipline if they aren’t shaping into the man or women that you intended them to be. Doing well in school is essential to doing well in a career and other aspects of life. Hard work amounts to achieving goals and being successful. Make sure that your teenager understands that you will enforce the expectations that you have set. If they aren’t doing their homework or following your advice, it’s okay to take things away that they enjoy. Revoking their rights to use their computer, phone, or game console are all things that could be used for discipline. It doesn’t make you a bad parent, doing well in school is an important factor of life and as a parent; you need to do what is necessary to make it happen.
Set Realistic Goals
When your teen has a specific goal that they are working hard to achieve, they have something motivational that can really assist their efforts. Goals also put the scenario into perspective, allowing the teenager to see their situation realistically, rather than being overwhelmed with the task at hand. Upon achieving these goals, your teen will build confidence in them and have a more positive outlook toward school.
Praise and Reward for a Job Well Done
When your teenager does something successfully, it’s important that you are very supportive of their efforts. If you want them to do well in school, they need to feel your love and appreciation when they meet your expectations.
Teenagers usually don’t have a lot of money and some parents reward good grades with cash. This isn’t for everyone, but all teenagers need some type of recognition. If you take things away for poor behavior, you have to give something for good behavior.
Keep in mind that rewards often work better when they are unexpected on the receiving end. Setting a prize beforehand could negatively influence their motivation.
Larry Smith works for HomeownersInsurance.net and has two teenage daughters himself.