In addition to “for better or for worse” and “for richer or for poorer”, perhaps the marriage vows should also include wording such as “in cleanliness and disorder.”

Dealing With An Unorganized SpouseMany married couples do not see eye to eye when it comes to what it means to keep a clean house. When one spouse is particularly unorganized, it can cause friction in the marriage. Here are 5 tips for dealing with an unorganized spouse


The first thing that you should do is make sure that your spouse knows that his or her disorder bothers you. For some, disarray is normal so they may not even realize that it is an issue. Letting them know that all of the clutter bothers you might be all it takes to bring about a change. 

Make Some Money or Do Some Good

Consider asking your spouse to help you with a yard sale. Think of something fun, such as a family vacation, that you can put the money towards. Then start going through some of the stuff that has collected and try to thin it out by selling some items. If you don’t want to go to the trouble of having a yard sale, then you could donate some things. 

Keep in mind that your spouse might not be on board when it comes to thinning their collection of stuff. But by presenting the idea in a way that is beneficial to your family (making money at a yard sale) or to a charity (by donating items) he or she just might agree. 

Storage Unit Salvation

If the love of your life just can’t bear the thought of parting with any of their belongings, then a storage unit just might be the thing that saves your marriage. For a small monthly rental fee, your unorganized spouse can collect and hoard all of the stuff they want – and you’ll never have to see it!

A storage unit really can be the salvation of a couple with one unorganized spouse. 

The Room

A similar, though less appealing, option is to set aside one room in your home in which your spouse can display all of the disorganization in any way they’d like. 


Compromise is part of any good marriage. Instead of insisting that your spouse get rid of all of their stuff, let some of it stay while the rest goes to storage or the donation pile. 

These tips can help you keep your marriage strong and your house in order. 

Author Bio

Lyndsi Decker is a freelance writer. She and her husband work with storage companies such as Extra Space Storage – Brighton and self storage Philadelphia PA. She enjoys mountain biking and spending time with her husband and two girls.

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