You may remember a time when you had a teacher whose only purpose was to make your life miserable. At least that is how it felt at the time.  The student-teacher relationship is a key component in the education experience.  In this post, Patti Ghezzi offers tips to help you help your child deal with student-teacher conflict.


Over the course of a long educational career, your child is probably going to get at least one teacher she really doesn’t like. And she’ll very likely insist the teacher hated her first.

Maybe her teacher calls on her when she clearly doesn’t know the answer and embarrasses her. Maybe she marks up your child’s papers with copious amounts of red ink and encourages her to change her writing style. Or maybe the teacher just doesn’t lavish attention on her the way she does on other students. C’mon, your daughter says, would it kill her to write “Good job!” on my paper? Just once?

What’s a parent to do?

Student-Teacher ConflictHere’s what not to do, says Cynthia Ulrich Tobias, author of I Hate School: How To Help Your Child Love Learning and other education books. First, don’t hand the teacher a book—even one by Tobias—and demand she read it. “That’s not how you approach a teacher,” says Tobias, who once gathered 100 educators to discuss how parents should approach them without them feeling defensive.

Second, don’t ambush the teacher at the parent-teacher conference with complaints about how she treats your child. Instead, if your child has a big problem with the teacher and can’t resolve it himself, try building a relationship with the teacher based on respect and trust. Once you have a relationship, you will be in a better position to get the teacher’s cooperation in creating a better learning environment for your child.

Here are some other ideas for helping your child deal with a teacher he doesn’t like:

CONTINUE READING Tips To Help You Deal With Student Teacher Conflict

READ MORE articles to help your child approach their teacher.

Student-Teacher Conflict